Divorce is hard on everyone, but especially so for children as they have grown up always knowing their parents were a duo that would never be split up. Being transferred from house to house between parents within the span of every few days or from week to week can be hard on them especially if their parents refuse to cooperate. Cooperation and good communication can help immensely in the transition of children between two homes.
Cooperation between parents gives kids a sense of security that their parents are still willing to work together despite being separated. While tensions may run high due to the divorce, being cordial towards the ex will go a long way in making the joint-custody easier to bear. Being coordinated allows parents to plan schedules and living arrangements much easier compared to the couple giving each other the “silent treatment”.
Good communication is also another thing to invest in when splitting the children between ex-spouses. When parents are willing to inform each other to what the kids do at their house, it allows easier planning of schedules. Another type of good communication may be to refrain from bad mouthing the other spouse in front of the children. This causes distrust among the parents and kids that may lead to kids disliking one or both parents.
While cooperation and communication are great for scheduling and planning, not all parents are good at keeping a reign on their rage against their ex. This may lead to one or both parents losing their temper during planning and end up in another heated argument rather than discussing custody arrangements. When custody negotiations fail, family law attorneys can help create a fair shared-custody agreement that is acceptable to both sides.
Taking custody of a child after splitting up with a spouse may be a difficult thing, but excellent communication and cooperation can make the process much more easy and tolerable. When watching the separation of two people that was always perceived as a team, children need some kind of security that despite being broken up, their parents are still able to work together. This may require the adults to swallow some pride, but the end result is well worth it.